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May you never dim to be seen.

I know what it’s like to do both.

To feel that being fully yourself, in your bigness, your intensity, your softness, your truth, might be too much for someone else to hold.

So you soften your voice.

You question your needs.

You smile instead of speak.

You become easy to love by becoming easier to handle.

I’ve done that.

And for a while, I didn’t even know I was doing it.

It felt like love. Like care. Like compromise.

But in reality, I was making myself smaller to fit into someone else’s limited capacity.

I was dimming my fire just so it wouldn’t burn someone who was never meant to stand that close.

And that hurt.

Because when you shrink, even if someone stays, you’re still not fully held.

When you dim, even if someone looks at you, you’re still not truly seen.

I’ve learned that we don’t just want love, we want to be met.

Seen as we are. Fully. Unapologetically as we are. Held without needing to disappear.

We want to know:

Is there space for all of me here?

Can you hold my truth without turning away?

Can I be soft and fierce and still be safe with you?

These are the questions I stopped asking out loud but carried in every relationship.

And only now, after years of healing, I know:

I will not shrink to be loved.

I will not dim to make someone else comfortable.

I am not here to be small.

I am here to expand.

The love I want, and the love I now choose, is a container big enough for all of me.

Big enough to hold the silence and the fire.

The tenderness and the truth.

The chaos and the calm.

And that love starts with me.

With the way I hold space for my own bigness.

With how I stay with myself when others can’t.

With the way I say No when shrinking feels like the price of connection.

To every woman who has felt the need to disappear to be loved,

I want you to know:

There is nothing wrong with your depth.

Your power is not too much.

Your truth does not need translation.

You were never meant to fit into a smaller version of yourself.

May you never apologize for your light.

May you never trade your truth for belonging.

May you be held in your wholeness, never despite your fullness, but because of it.

I see you! I root for you! Keep shining! Keep being You!

Much love,🤍

Aniela

www.mindfultherapist.us

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